Take a second and think about what you have said to yourself today. Was it positive or critical? Your inner thoughts control how you feel about yourself. Talking to yourself is not a bad thing. It has its benefits, especially when you are placed in a situation that you are uncomfortable in. Often, it is how you respond to events in your life.
What is Self-Talk?
Talking to yourself is something you do naturally throughout your day. Talking to yourself can help you understand what you are doing when you are trying to get tasks done. Talking aloud to yourself increases your motivation and way of thinking. People are becoming more aware of positive self-talk and how it is a powerful tool for increasing self-confidence and getting rid of negative thoughts. Mastering self-talk can allow you to understand and navigate your inner thoughts and emotions. Those who master positive self-talk are seen to be more confident and productive.
How Does Self-Talk Work?
Although self-talk comes to you naturally, some individuals need to learn how to improve positive inner thoughts and get rid of negative ones. However, with constant practice, it becomes a natural habit to have positive thoughts and self-talk running through your mind all day.
- Pay Attention to Your Emotions
Talking to yourself, especially during a stressful situation or while trying to figure a task out, can help you understand your feelings regarding the situation. On the other hand, this may not do much good if you are not actually listening to yourself. You know yourself more than anyone else. Try to tune into your inner emotions and listen to what your mind is telling you. Talking out your feelings can help recognize patterns leading to stress.
- Avoid First Person
Affirmations are a great way to motivate positive reinforcement and boost your mood. Phrases like “I am beautiful”, “I am strong”, and “I am loved” can all help boost your mood and confidence. However, when you say them as though you are speaking to someone else, it can increase the chances of you believing what you are saying. This can really make a difference if you are having a hard time with self-compassion and want to improve your self-esteem. So, instead, try saying “you are beautiful” and “you are loved”. Using “you” may instantly make you feel those affirmations deeply.