Romantic and intimate relationships are a normal part of life. We grow up in a society that sets expectations for us from when we are born. We are told to earn our degrees, get a job, get married, and have kids. In stories and movies, we learn about happy relationships and happy endings. However, that is not always the case. Unfortunately, outside of fairy tales, a numerous amount of people all over the world have fallen victim to toxic or abusive relationships.
Toxic versus Abusive
While they may overlap a lot of the time, toxic relationships and abusive relationships do not always refer to the same thing. Toxic relationships refer to relationships that take a toll on us emotionally and mentally. Here, we refer to emotional drainage, stress, anxiety, and more. With abusive relationships, we refer to physical and/or emotional abuse. It is important to note that while every abusive relationship is considered to be toxic, not every toxic relationship is abusive in nature. Much of the abuse can include beating, sexually assaulting, gaslighting and manipulating, lying, cheating, etc.
Impact on Mental Health
Much like other forms of abuse and trauma, toxic and abusive relationships can have long-term problematic effects on your mental health. For any person experiencing such negativity or abuse, many undesirable feelings may form as a result. Victims of such relationships may feel hopeless and worthless. Furthermore, mental health conditions such as depression, anxiety, and PTSD are very likely to develop following such a relationship. In extreme cases, long-term exposure to abuse may lead the victim to harm themselves. The severity of the trauma following toxicity and abuse may lead to substance abuse, self-harm, or suicide.
Getting Help
Leaving such relationships is far easier said than done. If you recognize that a relationship may be affecting your mental health negatively, reach out to your loved ones. Seek support and guidance from those who matter to you the most. Know that the ones you love and who love you are here to protect you and help you in any way that they can. If you are unsafe, know that there are laws and authority figures there to protect you. Call your local helpline if you are ever in need of urgent help.
Always remember that you are not alone.