A very important part of self-care is also taking care of external factors that could be affecting your life. This includes specific stressors like your work, your studies, and more. Of those factors also include the different types of relationships in your life.
Relationships
Different relationships in your life include your relationship with your parents, your siblings, your cousins, your friends, and even your romantic partners. Each of those relationships entails a different type of commitment and different obligations. Every relationship is different, and there is no one-size-fit-all solution to a problem here.
When does a relationship become toxic?
No matter if it was a member of your family, a friend, or your significant other, a relationship can become toxic if it is taking too much of a toll on your mental health. Below are some signs you can look out for –
- Lack of support
- Toxic or a lack of communication
- Controlling behavior
- Resentment and dishonesty
- Constant stress
- Ignoring your needs
What do I do?
You can always try to openly communicate your feelings and try to find a solution with the other person. However, keep in mind that it is very important for the other person to understand you and want to work on the problem with you.
In cases where that does not work, should you be able to let that person go, you should consider doing so. It is very important to be able to adjust your relationships when need be. Set boundaries or cut them off. Do what needs to be done to take care of you.
What if I cannot cut off the relationship?
In certain cases, it may be hard to cut off the relationship the way you might need to – with family members, for example. In such a case, here are some coping tips you may be able to implement –
- Stop trying to please them
- Enforce boundaries
- Do not try and change them
- Remember that you are not obligated to tell them everything
- Know the person’s limitations
- Take care of yourself
In general, you must always keep in mind that you are not obligated to a person if they are causing you more harm than good. Adjusting relationships is a very important aspect of self-care and self-love.