A breakup is most definitely hard, whether it was with a friend or a significant other. Regardless of the time spent with this person, letting go of this attachment can be hard. After all, you spend time learning the ins and outs of this person only to have to forget all of it and become strangers. Here are some things you can do in order to cope in a healthy manner. No matter how hard it seems right now, this too shall pass, and you will feel much better having moved past this.
Explore Your Emotions
Let yourself wallow in your pain. By this, I mean, do not be afraid to cry it out. Jam to sad music. Watch that sad movie and grab your bucket of ice cream. Give yourself permission to say in bed and do not feel guilty for doing so. By carrying this out, it enables you to better understand your emotions rather than bottling them all up to a breaking point. Most of all, go easy on yourself, especially since the breakup will be tough. Talk about it to a loved one when you are ready. They can provide you with an alternate perspective as well as helpful advice in terms of moving on.
Be a Busy Bee
When you are ready to do so, make plans to go out with friends and family as a form of distraction. This can help cope with feelings of loneliness and remind you that you are loved. Keep yourself busy such that your mind is distracted. Moreover, plan to do things you enjoy in order to uplift your mood. Take time out for you and indulge in things you find relaxing. Maybe even take the time to develop a new hobby.
Stay Away from Social Media
Social media catalyzes any negative emotions you may be feeling. Hence, I would suggest stay off social media for a bit and try to focus on the present. Old posts on social media relating to your breakup can be triggering. Another thing is to give them some space. Do not contact them for a while as this may just arise unresolved feelings. Pull away from this person and rather put the focus on you and feeling better.
Give it Time
Time heals all, so make sure to give it time. Change is hard to deal with and giving yourself time enables you to get used to the change and cope. Over time, you will be able to forget about them and focus on the present but do not feel guilty for taking time to move on even when the other person seems like they have. We all deal with situations differently. It may not even be as it seems.
Most of all, do not blame yourself for what occurred. Sometimes some people are just not meant for us and are sent as lessons in order to help us grow and become our best selves. Cherish the joyous moments you had together and know that there is something better in store for you.